The last few weeks since Stoofy returned home from Washington has had its ups and downs. Just like every time we reunite after a separation, there's some getting used to and getting back into the swing of things.
Mostly, it's a fight over compromise. When we have to go our own ways for deployments (or this last time, he was our "advanced party" for our move west, which didn't transpire) we have no choice but to become independent of one another. He has to learn to fend for himself when it comes to eating and doing laundry. I have to suck it up and take out the trash and get the oil changed.
When we reunited, it's a matter of relinquishing a bit of that independence and depending on one another to work as a team. It's all about compromise. And let's just go ahead and say it: I DON'T LIKE TO COMPROMISE.
Honestly, what's the point when I'm right? (I should probably stop writing this if I ever have a dream of running for Congress some day... oh wait, no one there compromises either. I'll fit right in!) I mean, who wants to give up the TV remote to watch another mind numbing episode of Family Guy when I still need to catch up on my RHWofNJ, RHWofBH, and Jersey Shore? Uh, not this Betty.
And if you ask Stoofy who's right during our 'disagreements' he'll tell you he's right. So, there you have it... two stubborn, unwilling to compromise people... married.... FOR-EV-ER. (How the hell did this even happen? Oh yeah... LOVE)
Our latest issue to find a compromise on: Elly's sleep patterns. She's had a dedicated bedtime for about 2.5 months... until daddy came home and decided to put her to sleep when he feels like it. And semi-dedicated nap times through the day? Yeah, those are long gone and nap time is when he feels like it.
Now, I've tried to be flexible, I've tried to explain it's good to have a set routine. Kids thrive on routine. According to him, this is his routine. (It's like you can see the speeding train about to de-rail and yet, no one does anything to stop it. You can see how this is about to work out, right?)
Ok, fine. I'll give in. Except, now the consequence is she wakes up screaming for an hour and a half at 2 in the morning. And who gets the privilege of waking up, calming her down, and waiting for her to cry it out? Me. Stoofy snores right through it all, since that's his contribution to the compromise according to him. And each morning he wakes up wondering why I didn't come to bed. Seriously?
And this is why compromise sucks. I hate it and I don't like to do it. I want it my way damn it! And I want some fucking sleep!!!!
So here's my compromise to him: When she wakes up screaming tonight (because I know she will), I'll be elbowing him until he's awake, and he can come stand next to me and wait for her to fall back asleep (two hours later). The compromise? All three of us can be sleep deprived and miserable. Because fair is fair!
I think it'll only take one night of that for him to compromise and see it my way again! :-) Because if mama ain't happy, nobody happy!
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